1001句焦点问题大批判　第205-237问

高效焦点解决教练 1001问，可以这样问吗？不可以这样问吗？

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在我们开始一次教练谈话的时候，或者是在寻找资源阶段，有的客户不那么容易进入引导的话题或者是语言空间中，那我们可以换个方式，先来给他赋能，从他最喜欢和最擅长的地方开始吧！

205. Can you tell me where your interests lie?

您能告诉我您对哪些事情感兴趣吗？

207. If you had a month-long vacation, what would you do?

如果您有一个月的假期，您想做什么？

208. How do you most enjoy spending your time?

您最喜欢如何度过这段时间？

209.What are you good at? What exactly does that involve?

您擅长什么？您的强项中确切地涉及些什么？

211. What do you like about your self?

您喜欢自己什么？

214. What was easy for you when you were a child?

对于小时候的您来说，什么事情是容易做到的？

215. What are your hobbies?

您的爱好是什么？

216. What activities do you find relaxing?

什么样的活动让您觉得很放松？

217. What activities that you used to do would you like to pick up again?

您曾经参加过的哪些活动让您念念不忘，还想再来一次？

218. What have been the most significant experiences of your life(e.g. traveling, studying, winning a competition)?

您生命中对您影响最大的经历是什么（例如：旅行，学习，赢得比赛）？

219. Have you ever conquered a bad habit(e.g. smoking, nail-biting)? How did you manage that?

您有没有克服掉过某个坏习惯（如，吸烟、咬指甲）？您是如何做到的？

226. What have you achieved that you're proud of?

您取得了哪些让自己引以为傲的成就？

227. What effect did that have on you?

那对您有什么影响？

231. What would you like to do in your life that would give you a sense of pride?

在您一生中，您想做什么让自己自豪的事情？

232. Suppose you were able to do that. What difference would that make for you ?

假设您有能力这样做，这件事会让您有什么改变吗？

236. We all have something unique to offer. What is it that you offer?

我们每个人身上都有独特之处。您的独特之处是什么？

237. In what situations do you compliment yourself?

您在什么情况下会赞赏自己？

在上面的问句交流中，客户的诉说就是在自我建立信心，相信自己曾经有过辉煌闪耀和成功的时刻，同时我们也会发现他的能力，优秀品质，还有他会提及的重要人物等等。在实际应用中，我们也可以转换视角，引入他身边相关的重要人物，持续为客户赋能，更是挖掘资源！

206. What would your partner or another important person in your life reply if asked what your interests are?

如果问您的伴侣或您生命中至关重要的一个人，您的兴趣爱好是什么，他们会怎么回答？

210. What do the important people in your life (partner, child, friend, parent) like about you?

您生命中至关重要的那个人（伴侣、孩子、朋友、父母）喜欢您什么？

212. What do you do better than others?

您在哪一方面做得比别人好？

213. What is easy for you that others probably find difficult?

哪些事情是您认为容易而别人却可能觉得很难的？

220. If so-and-so(e. g,, a deceased person)could see how you live your life now, what would he or she be proud of you for?

如果某某人（例如，一位逝者）可以看到您现在是如何生活的话，他或她会为您的什么而感到自豪？

221. If it were possible for that person to see how you live your life now, what would he or she say about you?

如果那个人有可能看到您现在是如何生活的话，他或她会如何评价您呢？

222. How would he or she say you've accomplished that?

他或她会如何评价您的成就？

223. Who helped you with that?

是谁帮您的？

224. How did you see your parents deal with similar situations?

您认为您父母是如何处理类似情况的?

225. How did others react when your parents dealt with those situations in that way?

当您的父母用那种方式处理这些情况时，其他人有什么反应？

228. What you have achieved that you’re proud of, what effect did it have on others?

您取得的那些让您引以为傲的成就，对别人有什么影响？

229. What effect would it have on you if you were given the opportunity to do that more often?

如果您经常有机会那么做的话，对您会有什么影响？

230. What have you achieved that the important people in your life are proud of you for?

您取得了哪些让您生命中至关重要的人引以为傲的成就？

233. In what situations have you received compliments from others?

在什么情况下，您会得到别人的赏识？

234. What difference would it make for you if you did agree with my compliment?

如果您确实担当的起我的赞美，会怎么样呢？

235. What qualities do others value in you?

别人看重您身上哪些特质？

上面的问句，有很多可以灵活应用的场景。当我们把这些问句都应用的特别好的时候，会给我们带来什么不同呢？会给和我们交流的人带来哪些影响呢？

学习、练习、实践、反思、督导，是一个SF取向工作者的快速成长之路。敬请期待下期分享。